This
post is a result of my current reading material, Yoga Bitch, in which
the main character tries to find a deeper connection to life than skepticism,
cynicism, and coffee. Sounds about right!
There's a part of
me that feels like I need to do, be more. More intellectual, more thoughtful,
more creative, more insightful. I read books by authors that seem to have such
intense, deep, colourful views of their experiences, and it makes me want those
too. I want to be so moved by a novel that I've actually read as opposed to one
that I know I should be moved by because my degree tells me I should and I
skimmed it during my studies. I want to describe experiences and situations
using adjectives and colours. I want to write thought provoking material that
really makes me look at my life. I'm trying to do that even now - I choose my
words carefully in the hope that I'll sound like these writers that I want to
be like.
And this is what I
mean. I constantly think that what I do and who I am isn't good enough - and
not in a depressing way (well, sometimes it's depressing, but that's only when
I'm having a pity party and I let myself dwell on past situations that made me
feel not good enough) but in a way that makes me think that I need to be okay
with who I am. Stop wanting to be prettier, smarter, funnier (well, I probably
can't be funnier), thinner, happier, less quirky and scattered and awkward and
sarcastic, more "normal". But Dr Suess had it right when he said that
you have to be yourself because the people that matter don't mind, and the
people that mind don't matter.
I need to stop
dwelling on the people that perpetuate my insecurities and wondering why they
don't think I'm good enough, and start focusing on those that appreciate my
quirks and weirdness and myself in general. Because how else am I going to
develop a sense of self security if I keep letting people and situations dictate
how I feel about myself? I'm the only one with complete control over that (does
this count as being insightful? It feels insightful).
I'm not particularly deep, or intense, or mindful. I don't have
grandiose plans, nor do I know how I want my life to end up. I'm restless,
scared, immature, selfish, shallow, untrusting, guarded. But I'm also nice,
thoughtful, smart; I love my friends and family fiercely, and I love with my
whole heart when I trust someone. I might be guarded, but when I love, I love
hard. But I do want to be more honest, and not with others (though I could
probably work on that - one step at a time!). I need to be more honest with
myself - who I am and what I want.
Right now I want a
snack. That's a good start, right?
Love,
M
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