I was pretty excited to read these books. I mean, they were promoted as novels that would revolutionize women’s sex lives and encompass what every woman wants. Um, yeah I want to read that shit. Who wouldn’t?
I was a bit taken aback to find that the words “control” and “dominance” were used liberally in the book’s back cover description of Ana and Christian’s “love” story. Still, I wanted to give it the benefit of the doubt.
It wasn’t until I was less than half way into the first book that I realized I wasn’t wishing I was Ana. In fact, I couldn’t fucking stand her. She has no back bone, no self-confidence, and reveres a man who follows her everywhere and tells her what to do. She thinks she doesn’t deserve this man and feels lost without him.
Are you fucking kidding me? THIS is what every woman supposedly wants? Not only to feel less of herself without “her man” around, but also a man that controls her every move and tells her how to dress, how to act, and what to EAT, for Christ’s sake? A man that gets off on dominating her to the point of punishment, expects her to submit to him, wants her to call him “Sir”, and not look him in the eye? That's good sex?
I would punch him in the fucking throat.
(And the fact that she doesn't end up signing his little contract doesn't mean she fights back against his dominance - throughout the entire trilogy she's more concerned with not making him angry than she is about what she wants).
But I kept reading. I was waiting for the racy and revolutionizing sex scenes. There were none. Seriously. If he wasn't trying to punish her, then they were gazing into each others' eyes. None of it was sexy, racy, or "blush enducing", as I've heard it described. I’ve read better.
I hope that women don’t read these books and think submission to a partner - sexual or otherwise - is something they should want or need, or that they shouldn’t feel whole without their significant other around. That’s some crazy shit, y’all. My momma raised me to be a stronger woman than that.
Love,
M
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