Thriving on the Dramatic

As a viewer, I would pick Aidan (also, hello Hotness). But in real life? I know I would pick Big.

I recently joined the Sex and the City bandwagon - which I realize was really more popular, like, ten years ago, but I'm a late bloomer, okay? - and obviously the girls unearth some very thought provoking issues in each of the epsiodes. Naturally, Carrie uses her and the girls' experiences to write the column that women everywhere relate to. I know I do, which is why I decided to write my own column about one of the issues that really resonated with me. Except this is just a blog. That I don't get paid for. So it's not the same at all.

Anyway. Carrie is dating Aidan. Sweet, lovely, sexy Aidan. Loves her, and isn't afraid to tell/show her. Carrie, in usual woman fashion, is still hung up on Big. Asshole, arrogant, hurtful Big. You would think that Carrie would be so relieved to find someone as wonderful as Aidan after Big's drama that she wouldn't give Big another thought. But she does. Aidan isn't dramatic. He's easy. Big is confusing, infuriating, and frustrating - but intoxicating. Carrie was burned bad by him, but she still wants him, which leads her to the question that I ask myself daily - when it comes to men, do we thrive on drama?

More often than not, I hear my girlfriends talk about the "chase" - oh, he's not interested? Challenge accepted. Do we like the chase of getting a man's interest, and grow more interested when he doesn't show interest in us? When a man is easy and doesn't make us guess, wonder, and guess again, do we lose interest? That thought is terrifying.

Big would never let Carrie meet his mother, keeping her away like "some kind of leper" and it infuriated her. Aidan wants her to meet his parents. And she automatically retreats into her shell and thinks it's too fast (which, okay, if it was the second date, then it would be too fast. Been there. We also have to use logic in order to decipher what men are just apeshit crazy and clingy). But the issue that Carrie focuses on is the fact that Aidan gives her exactly what Big won't, and suddenly she starts acting like Big. What is that?

It's like the drama keeps it exciting. Eventually, Carrie and Big get it together, but it's still dramatic. There's still hurt, anger, and emotional ups and downs. But what really makes me wonder about my own sanity is that I get it. I get that she would rather have the drama than the ease. Which, you know, makes me feel pretty good about my future.

I could really use a Cosmo.

Love,

M