Change

I love the ambiguity of this sign for the purpose of this post, but imagine seeing it as you were driving somewhere? Um, no thanks, I'll just turn around...

"If you don't like something, change it."

 

I really like this statement - it perpetuates the idea of taking control over your own life and promotes the thinking that you are the only one who can make you happy.

 

But there's just one problem. What if what you don't like - what is making you unhappy - is something that you're doing in order to change your life in the long run? What if changing something to gain present happiness negatively impacts your future happiness? Is it still something you should do?

 

Does this statement apply when that change - a permanent decision - is the result of a temporary emotion - that is, unhappiness? I don't know. I don't know if being unhappy now while I try to navigate my way though this new phase of my life is worth potential - yet undetermined and unpromised - happiness in my career later. We all have to do things we don't like to get ahead, right? That's what I've heard my whole life. It's just that, sometimes, putting myself through things (even though they were my choice to begin with) that cause me anxiety and angst and unhappiness just doesn't feel worth it.

 

But then again, life won't always be good. There's a lot of bad that comes with the good. That's what makes the good so sweet. I guess it's about riding those waves and learning how to cope when things get rough. But gosh - the temptation to change things right now and run away seems so much more appealing than sticking through it.

 

And those are my thoughts on a quiet Saturday night.

 

I think I have some wine around here somewhere...

 

Love,

 

M